When Joe and I were engaged a year and half ago, I had some grand plans for my wedding. We'll refer to my dream wedding as Wedding Plan A. Wedding Plan A was a beautiful non denominatinal ceremony in Ellis Library on MU campus in the evening in the spring. After the ceremony, there would be mule wagon rides and pictures on the columns. Columbia was the perfect place-equal distance from both Joe and I's homes as well as the place where we had spent the past several years together. So eventually, I contacted Ellis and we started getting to work regarding planning the dream wedding. The usage of a reading room in Ellis Library was going to be expensive but when it comes to Wedding Plan A, the dream wedding. It was fine. I wanted it and so Joe wanted it to. Then we hit a huge snag. Because I was considered 'an outside party', I could not rent Ellis Library for my event. 'An outside party' despite having spent nine years as a student and over $150,000 in student loans and being a member of the alumni association (I'm not any more!). Other places on MU campus were suggested but it wasn't being on MU campus that I wanted, it was the library where I had spent so many nights studying.
I was very, very lazy now that I was discouraged. Wedding Plan B became a great wedding in DeSoto in the church I grew up in. Even though, I would go on to Wedding Plans C and D, Wedding Plan B always was the go to plan.
Wedding Plan C was my daytime drunk plan. I made it up while drinking margaritas at the Mexican resturant with Joe. It was a park or the backyard here in Carlisle. I can't remember exact details other than that and that it was going to happen very rapidly.
Wedding Plan D was suggested by one of my friends from vet school. Wedding Plan D was going out to Las Vegas to the Western States Veterinary Conference and getting some CE as well as getting married. It started sounding better and better.
In there there were several other plans spoken of in the middle of the night...courthouse plans with our elderly neighbors as witnesses, eloping. They sounded good but were never more than sporatic ideas.
So now Wedding Plan E!! Wedding Plan E is not my plan. Its not my family's plan. Its our (Joe and I) plan. We have decided to get married here in Pennsylvania as this is our home now. We set a date-June 2, 2012. With a location-the Laughlin Mill in Newville.
I had to petition the Borough of Newville to use the property. I didn't really want an outside wedding because I'm not really good at dealing with change-such as if it rained but I think the mill really symbolizes our new life in Pennsylvania. And its sort of pretty.
We also have a reception hall-The Carlisle Vault. Its an old bank. Its not huge and doesn't have any parking but is really nice. I still have to sign a contract on it and leave a deposit but I'm super excited.
Joe and I put together a guest list which was bigger than expected though will change with time I'm sure. And not everyone will really want to come to Pennsylvania.
Unfortunately, 6-2-12 is a car show weekend leaving hotel rooms at a premium. So I need to start making some phone calls. That was supposed to happen to day but I doubt it will. I think I probably will not do anything after finishing up this blog. We are sending out the save the date cards by the end of the month. I chose to use vintage Pennsylvania postcards. I'm going to order a stamp with the date and hotel info so that people can reserve rooms now.
So that's the new wedding plan. The new wedding plan that has caused the whole world to get upset. My mom and I are currently at odds. Maybe not exactly about having the wedding in Pennsylvania but still at odds. When I told my mom the possible dates, she first said 'oh, that's when so and so's wedding is'. How does that affect me? My mom has not been excited for any wedding idea including Wedding Plan B. If she is excited, she doesn't show it to me. Saturday, I called her and decided that I didn't want her to come and visit me as she was supposed to this weekend. I was getting too stressed out regarding her visit which I some how knew wouldn't go as well as everyone would think. I saw how it would go-one bridal store where she wouldn't be able to tactfully tell me that a dress looked bad (or even good) and then lunch at McDonalds when I ask if she wants to get something to eat. (Plus now we're on this diet which is not going over well with me much less going over well with her!) Of course, I was pretty blunt about not wanting her to come and it upset her. My dad called me the next day. I wasn't backing down. In fact, I felt pretty good about standing up to my mom. She called this morning and at first, I was close to relenting but its not going to happen. She can't be excited for me. It is all about me. Jackie is excited so she gets to do all of the things that my mom will now miss out on. Maybe if at the end of the month, if I meet up with my bridesmaids in Columbia for some wedding dress shopping, maybe she can come then...but I doubt it.
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